A twenty-something Hawaii transplant living it up on the East Coast for the past 10 years (Boston and Stamford, CT). This blog is to document my daily adventures and things that I find cool, uncool, hilarious, awe-inspiring, and annoying. Please feel free to email me at hawaiigurlinct@gmail.com.
January 21, 2010
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So here’s my tale of the day / week…
As you may have noticed, I’ve been pretty light on postings recently. I wasn’t going to post about what was going on originally, but since I use this place as sort of my online diary / documentary of my life… I figured it may help me a little to get it out there. So here we go.
Monday night I got news that my mother’s sister (my Aunt) passed away. My grandparents passed away a couple years ago and it was devastatingly hard to get over, but we knew it was coming and I had even gotten some sort of closure by flying out to Montana when my Grandmother start to get really sick in order to say good-bye.
I always felt bad because the times that I have been back to Hawaii was always about fitting in how many times I could go to the beach, drink with my high school friends, and eat as much food as I could before leaving. So family (excluding parental units) always took a back seat. But what was the big deal? Sure everyone was getting older, but I’d be back for good in 5 years. (Note: 5 years is what I said back in 1999, and every year since then, but I think it’s really true this year.)
One thing I was so excited about moving back to Hawaii (someday) for was to host one of my family holiday parties. I would ask Ryan what holiday he thought we should offer up. (To which he most likely rolled his eyes at me for my over eager planning.) So I’m getting off track but what I’m trying to say is, I just thought I’d have more time… with everyone.
I’ve cried through a good part of my work-week, more so today because I finally got news on when the funeral will be and due to the commuting time to Hawaii and the busy requirements of my job right now (requirements I’m clearly ignoring by moping around and writing on tumblr) I think there’s almost zero chance I’ll be allowed to take time off. I’m big on closure - and so I thought the funeral and being with my family would really help me.
But since I don’t want to end my LONG post on such a depressing note, I’ll leave it with why my Aunt was an extraordinary woman. If I could sum it up in one word: supportive. From the mundane tasks of helping me decipher boring scientific articles in Encyclopedia Britannica (ahh… the days before the Internet) so I could finish my homework, to understanding that going through your parents divorce (even if it takes place when you are an adult) is a painful process and takes time to get through. She also provided me with the full collection of US state quarters over the years. The world has lost a great person.
Anyway, so that’s why the extent of my posting this past week has been limited to reblogs. I’m very glad they did away with tumblarity - cause mine would probably be down to 0 by now.
